Loyalty vs. Love?

Published on 12 October 2025 at 13:18

 


I've been going through a shift.
A spiritual shift. An energetic shift.

It’s part of the reason I took a brief hiatus from writing. Over the past few weeks, I felt blocked—creatively, emotionally, energetically. I tried to write—I have five or six drafts sitting unfinished, filled with important thoughts I wanted to share. But nothing felt right. The writing felt forced, ingenuine, unauthentic.

And yet, the irony is that I’ve had so much to say. My mind has been full—of thoughts, insights, revelations—but I couldn't seem to translate any of it into words without it feeling like pure word vomit.

Then today, I woke up with a headache. And I hate when that happens.
Headaches, for me, are one of the worst ways to start the day. They’re hard to shake off. Most times, I surrender to migraine meds because if I don’t, it escalates—intense light sensitivity, unbearable pain, and tears in the dark until I finally fall asleep to escape it.

But today, I didn’t want that for myself. I’d set intentions to enjoy this weekend. A headache wasn’t in the plan.

At the same time, I had to be honest with myself—I hadn’t really been committed to my spiritual practices lately. By that, I mean taking intentional time to go inward, to listen, to release.
And I’ve come to understand that release is a vital part of spiritual growth. Releasing energy, cleansing it, sharing truth, insight, and discovery.

Energetically speaking, I could feel that something was blocked—likely my Third Eye or Crown chakra. I’d been taking in so much new information through reading, meditation, and meaningful conversations... but I hadn’t released any of it.

So this morning, I drew a bath and decided to reconnect. Through my meditation and reading, I was reminded of the importance of the Throat Chakra—the center of communication, truth, and expression. It’s how we release energy. It’s how we connect.

The throat chakra is associated with Ether—the fifth element.
Spiritually speaking, ether (or aether) is the subtle, invisible field that fills all space and connects all things. It is the medium through which spiritual energy flows—linked to the divine, to consciousness, to the soul. It's the thread that ties us to each other, to the Earth, and to the Universe itself.

This is why our words matter.
Words carry energy. They shape our reality. They influence our surroundings. They attract or repel. Our voice is not just a tool—it’s a sacred channel.

During my bath, I had a revelation:
I’ve been overflowing with energy and insight, and the only way to realign was to release it—to speak, to write, to share.
This is why I created this space.
This is why I write.
So now... I'm back.


I pride myself on my authenticity. I am me—the only me there will ever be. And I’m here to fulfill my purpose: becoming my highest self.
Whatever that means for me.
Not what it means to you, or anyone else.

Others are here to bear witness, not to define me.
Support, encouragement, and love from others are beautiful blessings, but they are not owed. Nothing is. That’s why those who understand this truth tend to deeply value loyalty—even more than love.

Some people say:

“Loyalty over love.”

Others say: “Love and loyalty go hand-in-hand.”

And some believe: “Love over loyalty.”

None of these are wrong—but none are entirely right either. They’re all partial truths.

Let’s look at the definitions:

Love

A deep emotional connection marked by care, affection, and a desire for another’s well-being. Love can take many forms—romantic, platonic, familial, or self-directed—but it always involves recognizing the value of another and feeling moved to protect or nurture that bond, often without expecting anything in return.

Loyalty

A consistent, unwavering allegiance or support—especially in the face of hardship, temptation, or change. Loyalty implies trust, faithfulness, and a willingness to remain committed, even when it’s not easy.

They are not the same, but we often link them because they feel similar—warmth, connection, soul nourishment. When harmonized, they create powerful, lasting bonds.

Imagine them on a scale:

On one end: “Loyalty over love.”

On the other: “Love over loyalty.”

In the center: Balance. Harmony. Peace. "Love and loyalty are the same". 

 

Now reflect:

Think of the people from your past.

Place them where they belong—not as “good” or “bad,” but simply as who they were in relation to these values.

  • Then, turn inward. Ask yourself: Where do you fall on this spectrum?

If we’re being honest, many women tend to gravitate toward “Love over loyalty.” They may remain loyal to someone they love—even long after that love is no longer being returned.
It’s the loyalty that keeps them there... until it no longer can.

Many men, on the other hand, lean toward “Loyalty over love.” They may not express love openly, but they show up consistently—because their loyalty is how they love.

When you begin to see the world through this lens, your relationships—romantic, platonic, familial—start to make more sense. You begin to seek not perfection, but alignment. You begin to create space for duality, for balance, for truth.

Because the harmony you seek... it’s not just about you.
It’s about the space between you and the people around you.
It’s about mutual care, mutual understanding, and shared intention.

Love and loyalty are not the same—but together, they are the root of peace, growth, and trust.
Together, they create respect.

And that’s why we often say:

Love. Loyalty. Respect.

 

At the end of the day, this journey isn’t about choosing between love and loyalty—it’s about learning to honor both, in ourselves and in others. It’s about speaking our truth, trusting our energy, and allowing our voices to be the bridge between what we feel and what we share with the world. As I realign with my purpose, I’m reminded that expression is not just a release—it’s a sacred act. And in that sacred space, love, loyalty, and respect aren’t separate—they’re intertwined, forming the foundation for deeper connection, inner peace, and spiritual growth.

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